First step toward closing LJ. I have too many social things up, and want to streamline. LJ has been having too many problems, and I'd rather support a company that is treating its users better (DW).
I'm still more active on G+ than anywhere else. There've been a lot of OWS posts lately, and a lot of stuff going down that is in my small "Vent" circle. Work foo mostly.
In the past, I've let things get in the way. I've worried over what other people might think, and imagined that asking shows weakness.
But you know what, I'm done with that.
For example, as a single in the SCA, I've recently asked on my barony's social group, if people are interested in carpooling to various events. In the past, I'd have worried that people would look down on me for that, think that I was begging for a ride, or think that I was being pathetic. That's not it. It's as simple as recognizing that if I'm going to travel, I'd rather do that in the company of another person. It makes the travel part of the experience, it cuts down on expenses (one car burning gas instead of two), it makes meal time more enjoyable, and it reduces the chance of fatigue-related accidents (I've been fortunate so far, but have had some near misses, because I misjudged my own ability to drive when tired).
And being able to reframe this means that I'm not as concerned if no one responds. It doesn't change my plans to go to the event, and I view it more as "their loss" rather than a failing in me.
Also as a single, I've recently become more active in the SCA Singles community. Because who's going to change my circle of friends if not me? No one, that's who. I have started planning some singles activities for local events. Because that's an area that's not, in my opinion, very well served at the moment. It doesn't fall under any current officer's jurisdiction, and I don't pretend that it falls under mine (MOAS), but as a single, I'm owning the "be the change" attitude. I don't know that there needs to be an office for "Singles Herding," but I do feel that if one were to be created, it should be held by a single. Because those in committed relationships have a different view of what the SCA is, and what offerings are out there.
So I asked, on the barony's email list, rather than the monthly business meeting (which I usually can't attend due to work conflicts) if anyone minded if I held a small "Singles Scavenger Hunt" at our upcoming event (I'm already running the A&S Competition, but that should be fairly straightforward). Which would consist of a sheet of paper with prompts, inviting those who participate to go out and collect signatures of other singles that are described by the prompts. Easy peasy, and a great icebreaker. Another single on the SCA Singles FB group mentioned that they'd seen it done at an event, and I thought it sounded like a lot of fun. I've participated in similar, in other contexts.
I got no response from members of the barony, until I asked a friend if she'd seen the email (thinking perhaps there'd been a glitch and it didn't post). She had seen it, and we discussed the bureaucratic process of it (that I should likely have brought it up at a meeting, or directed it specifically to our autocrat/seneschal). Perhaps I should have. But it's out there, and I'll likely run it, as a small "test run," for whoever shows up, and then revamp it for future events. Because I think we need better ways of getting singles to meet one another.
One of the great things that has happened, with me becoming more active on the SCA Singles group, is that I've "met" a few people from nearby baronies, and we'll meet for real sometime soon at an event. Yay more friends! Because meeting other singles isn't just about dating. It's about widening your circles.
So, to wrap up: if you want something, ask for it. Be your own advocate. You deserve to be happy, and who knows better than you what will make you happy? Don't demand it, but ask, and take steps to make it happen.
Not that I'm an expert on all things SCA, far from it. But I have been playing since '95, so it's not just a passing fancy, either.
Much of what I've written boils down to respect. Here's a sampling of my view:
- Everyone was new at some point. There's no reason to treat someone poorly because they have a lack of knowledge. You too had a lack of knowledge, so don't get haughty.
- There may only be one official chatelaine for each group, but each of us should be friendly and welcoming to new people.
- The SCA is an educational society.
- Teaching others is an excellent way to learn a subject more intimately.
- Teaching is not about ego.
- Teaching is a learned skill. Having knowledge does not a teacher make. Sometimes a person (A) with less knowledge in a particular subject is a better teacher than a person (B) who has more knowledge in that subject, because A is better able to break down the process into easy steps.
- If you attend a class about which you have some knowledge, remember to treat every person in the class with respect. You may not agree with everything they have to say, and you may have references to back up your position, but there are ways to discuss things without being rude. And it is never okay to take over someone else's class. If you have issue with their methods, sources, etc., speak with them after class. Or better yet, teach your own class, with your own sources.
Here it is.
(Yes, I'm on G+ a lot more than anywhere else these days. I have invites available to anyone who wants one)
And because I'm feeling lonely, it feeds my feeling (despite logically knowing that it's not true) that, aside from my family, no one would really notice if I were gone. I mean sure, there'd be an initial "Oh, we have to fill this work/housing slot" ... but after that? My inner mean girl (who I decided awhile back should be named IMoGene - see what I did there?) goes onto a repeat cycle that since I no longer have an inner circle, people would just go along as they do most days, and not even think about the fact that they haven't heard from me.
I'm not feeling suicidal. I don't want to do harm to myself.
But I know these feelings aren't good, and I need to get it outside of myself, at least a little.
I'm really not looking for responses on here. My social media cred is okay.
It's my unplugged self that's feeling unloved.
So if you feel moved to do something, invest some real time in me.
I got back late last night from the weekend's SCA event. I went down Saturday morning instead of Friday night, since the weather was ominous & I'd forgotten a few key items (including my tarp - although, in retrospect, I think having the tarp under the tent created more problems than it solved, as the rain would've soaked into the ground & not puddled under my things... next time I'll put a tarp inside the tent as well.
I didn't do much, basically stayed at the Ponte Alto encampment & chatted (well, mostly listened) with other barony members. It was wonderful! I took one lap through the merchant area, but since I didn't have money to spend, didn't look terribly closely.
I baked vegetable & cheese pasties for Saturday's potluck - I think they were a bit too soft, could have baked a bit longer, and sealing them in ziploc bags likely didn't help. But other people said they enjoyed them - some toasted them over the fire pit for a few minutes. The flavor was quite good, I thought. I have more stuff for fillings, and I believe I have Bisquick, so may experiment some more this week. Yay real foods. We also had several home-baked breads, cheese made at the encampment (SO good!), beef roasted over the fire (OMG, fabulous), homemade guacamole (yum!), salad (from someone's garden) with camp-made vinaigrette... and many more wonderful items! Plus people made breakfast & lunch over the fire & on a propane stove. Pontoons eat very well. Next year I want to contribute more, but I did what I could for this year, and it was well received.
My 10x13 day shade, which was a cheapie I bought at Big Lots for $45, provided good coverage during Saturday evening's rain, but decided to collapse Sunday afternoon just as I was starting to take down my tent. I've never seen the corner joints collapse as these did. Annoying, but that's what I get for trying to save a few dollars... Ah well, at least it held up during the rain. And it provided impetus to make my own day shade, with durable fabric, poles, and ropes. Rar. I'm not quite up to making my own pavilion, though I dream of some day having one... but a day shade shouldn't be that hard. ... And because I'm good at making things even more difficult, I just got a mental image of a multi-colored jumbo-sized lucet cord for the tie-down ropes. *headshake*
Oh, and I got some spinning done for my tapestry project - for Chalice of the Sun God - I'm spinning Jacob wool in 3 natural shades of grey. The middle grey, which I'm currently spinning, will be the warp, which will be covered by the 2 other colors of weft. I found a beautiful mosaic of the minotaur in a labyrinth that I think will work well for the project - it's a Roman excavation in Conimbriga, Portugal.
So that was my weekend. A lot of relaxing and socializing, which is just what I wanted. It was hot at times, but a lot of fun, too. And it ended with a wonderful dinner with a few other barony members on the way home, and then once I got home, being greeted by my furkids!
A sampling of the items available can be found here, though there's much much more than what's been photographed. We created a Facebook event for the sale here, with the time & location.
The majority of my items will be books, magazines (primarily knitting, but other crafts & such as well), fabric, and clothing.
There will be some furniture.
A masseuse will be offering chair massages - I know where part of my earnings will be going!
Our rain date is the following Saturday.
If you're local, please help us boost the signal, thank you very much!
ETA: Craigslist posting here: http://washingtondc.craigslist.
I convinced myself that I don't need to hang onto all my old environmental education stuff anymore, since I don't teach environmental ed. I'm keeping my Project Learning Tree, WILD, WET & such manuals, since I did certify in those courses, but I have nearly 2 boxes of games & support materials that will be donated to a nature center (yet to be determined) if no one who attends the yard sale wants them. And I know I have more to sort. Sigh.
There's a lot I can't get to, because my roommates' stuff is in the way. I'm hoping to sort that stuff Saturday and Sunday. At least those items are on shelving units.
I'm going to rent a U-Haul or similar, I think. I posted on FB asking if any of various days I have off would work for anyone willing & able to help with the move. I've had one positive response so far.
The cats have enjoyed exploring in the garage, and have figured out how to unzip the food bins to help themselves. sigh.
Alright, back to packing...
I am thankful that I have great friends here in VA, specifically dexlira , her husband chyronjay , and Dex's sis, KT (who doesn't LJ, I don't think). They're my "other family" (without creepy button eyes) and I'm grateful every day for getting to know Dex.
I am thankful for Dex's & my growing business, FETCH! Pet Care of Herndon, especially our fantastic staff and the other owners in the DC area. We now have 9 franchises out here, and are a force to be reckoned with! We've done great things this year, and I'm sure we'll do even better in coming years. We don't always agree, but it's good having different perspectives, and we have a common goal: business growth & success.
We also have some good contacts with other owners, but since they are spread across the country, we don't interact with them as much. Christie in MN though is one of the closest, because she was in our training class, so we compare growth & share marketing ideas. There are approximately 280 franchises across the country & they're hoping to expand into Canada soon. Having a franchise, rather than going independent, is the only way I would do this, and my hats are off to those who've made their independent businesses a success. We've met a few through the NOVA Professional Pet Sitters Network, and I love that we're in a business where people are supportive of each other, and watch out for each other. Though NOVAPPS is a much smaller group than FPC, the members are local, so have local experience - some have been here for 20 years!
I am especially thankful for my family. I spent 2 weeks in Indiana visiting my parents, and it was hard to leave, because I miss them so much. I miss my sister & her family in California too, of course, but Kelly & I have had a rocky relationship, and that, plus very divergent interests, makes it difficult to reconnect. She's all about her kids, which is absolutely how it should be, but I don't have kids, and don't want any, so there's only so much to talk about.
I am thankful for the SCA, because even when I wander away for a time, due to work, school, or other interests, it's there, and I have friends in the SCA that I can really count on. I was thrilled to get to attend a Rivenstar event during my trip to Indiana, even though it resulted in me injuring my ankle (the same one I hurt earlier this year), because that's my home group, and no matter how far away I go, Lafayette/Purdue/Rivenstar will always feel like home to me.
I am thankful for my friends in Fabrica Minervae, an A&S/Service household that was started by Fiore, Calendra, & me. Fiore & Calendra have left the SCA to pursue other interests, and we were always the household of procrastination & snark, so much so that our motto is "I need to do that, but not right now," but there are still friends who answered my call to dinner during my recent trip. Some had other commitments, which was a shame, but understandable. I want to grow our household in the coming year, formalize some processes (yes, I love structure), and make the household something to be proud of, a group that other people know about and want to be a part of.
I am thankful for my health. Nuff said.
I am especially thankful for my pets: Roxi, Kapone, Jake & Twitter. They're by my side every day, they make me laugh, give me kisses & purrs when I'm sad, and inspired Dex & me to open FPC of Herndon.
Also, I got the word via Facebook that a pit bull, Trooper, was found severely injured in a trash dump. He's being taken care of by the Washington Humane Society, which runs on a shoestring budget.
In other news, Fetch! Pet Care of Herndon is starting to get some business. Roxi & I have met several of the local dogs & their owners, jen & I have met the office staffs of local vets and the general managers of the 2 Petco stores in our area, and we discovered that we & I live just a few blocks from Bark & Bubbles (a we-wash or you-wash dog spa) and Wagn4U (a pet safety/emergency service that develops first aid supplies and teaches first aid/cpr for pets). We're definitely interested in partnering with both of them in the future.
Okay, off to fix lunch, then walk Roxi.
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As per usual, shortly after eating supper, I dozed off, and when I woke up, R told me McCain had conceded. It took a bit to sink in, so I read through a few LJ posts on my f-list, and was disheartened to read a few entries already tearing Obama down -- before he's had a chance to take office.
Eight years ago I was not a Bush supporter, despite living in a historically red state. This likely doesn't surprise anyone. However, I was willing to wait and see how he'd handle his new office before weighing in. I ask only that those people who supported a candidate other than Obama afford him the same respect.
I fully expect Obama will make mistakes. I have difficulty believing he will lay waste to as many parts and policies of this country that I hold dear as Bush has done during his tenure. I also doubt I'll agree with every choice Obama makes. But I'm not in his shoes, facing the decisions he'll have to face. He has a huge job to do, and I think he's up for it.
We watched McCain's concession speech on YouTube, and something happened that I hadn't expected. I got a little choked up, and my respect for McCain grew. He was gracious, he was respectful toward Obama, and he tried to quiet the people in the crowds who acted rudely. They may have thought they were being true supporters of the McCain campaign with their behavior, but I found them coarse and uncouth -- they were shouting over the words of the man they claimed to adore, and how is that proper behavior?
Perhaps McCain just has a great speech writer, and those are just words. I hope not. I hope he truly means them. I wish we'd seen more of this side during the campaign... but then again, if he'd done less mud-slinging we might have been facing a far different future than we are tonight. So perhaps it's best we only saw the "softer side" after he'd lost the election.
Whatever candidate you supported, all of us in this country have a responsibility to work to make this a better place. We won't do that by tearing each other down.
MUST get. Soon. The short clips will not suffice. Though they are very much happy-making.
In other news, instead of doing something constructive, like packing, or sleeping, I'm restless. And posting. Mua.
Took a brief trip through posts tagged "family" and saw that it's been 3 years since I was last in NY. For great aunt Esther's 90th birthday party. So, am understandably stoked to see people again! I'm not taking the laptop, but I'll have my camera & blackberry, so will be able to post via email. Won't upload pics till I return, but that's okay.
Yay seeing niece, nephew, and everyone else! Yes, in that order. Squee!
Really, must try to sleep. Since I'm hoping to be out the door by 9am.
had my performance review, and during the review, the idea to write blog
posts for the store came about. We have had a blog for some time, but it
hadn't been updated since the death of Elijah, one of Pennye & Julie's dogs,
I wrote up a draft and submitted it, and it has been approved. It can be
I'm going to do a Featured Vendors series, as well as posts concerning local
and special events. So, if you're interested, keep your eyes on WoofTales!